There are many challenges to overcome when you have a disability. One that doesn’t get talked about much is how to be intimate.
When faced with so many challenges, intimacy seems to be put on the back burner. Yet, it is one of the most important things to maintain a quality of life even when you’re disabled.
In this article, we will go over why intimacy is so important and what you can do to improve that area of your life.
Having an active sex life when you’re disabled is tricky. There are privacy concerns when you have a caretaker around. And, sometimes asking for help to be able to have sex is uncomfortable.
Communication with your partner and caretaker is very important. Sexual intimacy is nothing to be ashamed about and is a healthy aspect of anybody’s life regardless of ability. There are both physical and emotional benefits, so sex should still be considered regardless of your disability.
There is often an issue with erectile dysfunction so medication may be necessary. solutions to erectile dysfunction are readily available so ask your doctor if you can take them.
Besides sex, there are other types of intimacy. Touching and being touched is a fundamental human need.
A hug, a caress, holding hands are all intimate acts that are small but very profound. Touching and kissing can lower blood pressure and release endorphins which helps to regulate our hormones. Touching simply makes us happier.
If you are not practicing much physical intimacy, then try to make it a habit. Sometimes, you may need to ask your partner for affection if it is lacking. There is nothing wrong with making your needs known.
When there is a lack of intimacy, whether sexual or not, then resentment can build. It’s important to talk about your feelings and needs with your partner. When something is missing in a relationship it is not good to simply ignore it and hope it gets better.
Even being intimate takes some work. You may need to make it a habit to hold your partner’s hand or give a caress of the arm. And asking for affection when it’s needed may also create a habit in your partner to be more spontaneous with being intimate.
You should also talk about the aspects of intimacy that you don’t like. Whether it is a certain way that you are touched, or when it happens should be made clear. If you dislike public displays of affection, be sure to gently remind your partner that you prefer when intimacy happens at home, in private.
Having a physical or mental handicap does not make intimacy less important. In fact, it may be even more necessary to be able to lead a healthy and fulfilled life.
The approach to sex will clearly be different and require more patience and communication. Talking to a doctor or therapist about your intimate needs is also something that may help you get what you need.